The Healing After Shock!

Four days after being at the scene of the accident – not just any accident but that of a family member – I hear the details of what took place and how. It’s impossible to fight back the tears, the dreaded emotions that rise within me. So much so that I think, “I’ve got to be out a balance to be feeling this way; surely it’s not right to cry every time I talk about it; surely I need healing because of the way I react whenever I recall what happened, or remember what witnesses had to say; SURELY THIS PAIN CAN’T BE GOOD!”.

Actually, as I lay in bed I realize that the pain of remembering needs to be felt and not pushed aside.

So often a traumatic event takes place in our lives and our bodies go into overdrive, enabling us to take care of whatever is at hand. It’s not until later when the dust settles that the shock of it all is free to drop and we begin to feel the effects. This is the time that pain surfaces, and instead of dealing with it we fight with all our might to ignore it…we do anything as long as it doesn’t mean feeling it.

However it’s not to be ignored. The pain needs to surface so that it’s felt.

I look back over my life at other traumatic events that have taken place. Though I feel sure that I dealt with them as best as I could, I now see that what was missing was the true allowance of feeling the pain and being ok with the tears as they came up.

I am an Energetic Healer and Reiki Master and I often speak of the importance of allowing oneself to ‘feel’ - suppression only leads to illness. However in my own personal experience I know there have been times where I’ve indulged in healing modalities as a way of ‘short-cutting’ the process, rather than fully delving into the pain and letting myself ‘feel’. I did that so as to avoid sitting in the grief for too long.

Don’t get me wrong the desire to strive for balance and peace is a great way to live. I am only suggesting that to sit and ‘feel’ the grief or any memory associated with it, is an important part of the healing process. Though uncomfortable it is extremely powerful and I believe imperative.

As mentioned earlier, it’s been four days since the accident. Yesterday was the third day and any mention of the event had me in a blithering mess. Today, having had this revelation of what needs to ‘be’ and making it OK to truly ‘feel’, I can speak about it without the tears, without the painful emotions. That’s not to say that it won’t come up again because as with most things, there are layers. However the healing can truly take place more thoroughly by "allowing".

Look back over the traumatic times in your life. How did you handle them? Were you open to feeling the hurt and pain associated with it, or did you very quickly push it aside by getting busy with other things? Alternatively, were you like me where you would source a healing modality quick smart so as to short cut the healing process?

I feel a need here to reiterate once again - that any form of energetic healing is great! It allows for a more gentle, yet deep process. Massage is another great way to get in touch with what’s going on.

Just be aware of your motives behind sourcing a healing, and be fully open to ‘feeling’.